Okay, so welcome to my Blog.  This is my first entry so bear with me.  I am new to blogging.  I have friends that have blogs, the other attorneys in the firm have blogs and so now it’s my turn.  Let me start by saying that I want my blog to be informative about family and divorce law, but also a bit entertaining too.  Because let’s face it, issues that surround relationships are ….well sometimes entertaining.  Think about all of the reality television there is these days.  It’s everywhere and most of it if not all of it revolves around relationships; husbands and wives, children and parents, fiancées’, friendships, enemy-ships, you name it…Bravo will do it.

I heard something the other day that really hit me…. it was about divorces and people breaking up.  It was some woman on the radio that commented about the reason so many romantic relationships fail….TV and movies.   She said people are addicted to happy endings.  I think she’s right.  They go and see a movie and in two hours the couple manages to meet, break up and then the man does or says the perfect thing and bingo….they get married.   And live happily ever after.   It’s a theme that will repeat itself for…well forever, I think.  Life however is not a movie.  So then we turn to the reality shows…but is that really reality I ask?  I say no.  Why?  They are real people with cameras following them around and great music mixed into the scenes…need I say more?

So people get together, they date, they fall in love, they feel that excitement of a new relationship, they live together, they get married (some), they have kids (some), then real life sets in, and issues come up, fights happen….life happens.  I believe the success of a couple is not how cute they look together, or how much they have in common, or how much money they have, I believe it is how well they communicate, in the good times and bad.   I know you have heard it before, but after practicing divorce law for a long time, the most common thing I hear when I ask people what happened to your relationship;  we don’t talk anymore, she doesn’t understand me, he doesn’t understand me.  People tell me all of the things they never tell their partner.

But I have to say, once they come to see me, it’s usually too late.  Most of the damage has been done.  I don’t mean to sound negative, but it’s reality.  I try to help people deal with problems when they are at a low point in their lives, but somehow I see people for who they are and it always amazes me when people let me into their lives so freely.  My goal is to help them get through tough times, and I hope my blog helps my readers…to see there are other people with the same problems…that come out  the other side and move on with their lives, whether it’s a divorce, separation or issues about their children.  And maybe, if we add a little music, it might not be so bad.
So I am starting my journey with this blog…. welcome.

Until my next little divorce blog……… Sue

Susan Moore Daubner, Esq.
New York Divorce & Family Law Attorney
Ziff Law Firm
Elmira, New York
sdaubner@zifflaw.com